Quite the daunting question isn't it. Now, let me ask you an even more frightening one... What would you like your story to be? Take a few moments and write the answers to both on a piece of paper.

What is the story you write down? Was it about a loving and healthy relationship with an intimate partner? Was it about your travels around the world and the countless adventures you've encountered? Perhaps yours is a narrative world where expressions like "I want to be in charge of my time and destiny!" and "I am the boss!" are common talk. Maybe it was more maternal, like the story of becoming a better parent or the challenges that come with becoming a more supportive spouse.

Whatever you answered, I want you to know that crossing the bridge from where you are to where you want to be is a completely achievable and worthy goal.

Hi, my name is Julius Jooste. I learned the above exercise from a Tony Robbins audio cassette almost a decade ago. It was during a time in my life where I was very unhappy with my own story but luckily I realized that nobody was going to change it for me. I had to do it myself.

The key to getting from where I was to where I wanted to be laid in identifying the route that was going to get me there. Performance psychology suggests that the three most effective approaches we can use to getting our desired outcomes are State, Strategy and Story.

State speaks to the physical realm of existence. "Am I in command of my body or is it running on auto-pilot?" Strategy speaks to the mental component of being. "What practical steps do I need to take to get me where I want to be?" Story relates to something a bit more esoteric in nature, - the soul. "That part of me that lives on long after it is all over."

Using 'The Three S's' as a foundation. I set out into the world and started living life in accordance to the story I've always imagined for myself. The story of my life turned out even better than I could have imagined and I am happy to say it is far from over. During my adventures I learned much about the importance of state and strategy. But it was only when dealing with aspects of story that the real breakthroughs happened.

Which brings me to the problems I want to solve for my clients. State and Strategy are both vitally important components for success. But the ability to dig deeper and go further than ever before can only be attained in the realm of story. Which is exactly where I operate. If it helps, you can think of me as a story-coach. I help clients identify the limiting beliefs they are telling themselves. And by way of something as simple as a photo shoot, I help them craft a better more productive internal monologue as they take on the everyday challenges of life.